Let us not forget to thank God for getting us through the week, All things are possible through him. As we approach another weekend let us take a moment to reflect back on the past 5 days and think about what we learned this week. Was each life lesson a testament to a new beginning? How did you gain from the newly acquired knowledge? Was it beneficial to uplifting your movement? I ask these questions because each week we go into the work week dreading whats ahead with our busy jobs. Some of us hate our jobs but its a means to an end. Some of us actually love our jobs and are always looking for ways to improve, And then there’s that group that cant wait till Friday is here!!! Now that Friday is here, Are we that much closer to gaining financial freedom, or bettering our current situation? Have we figured out what’s needed and what’s not? I look at Friday as another day to gain knowledge and to put whats learned into action. Friday is just a day to regroup and put all the pieces to the puzzle together. Don’t always be ready for the week to end. Don’t let the Friday mentality put your grind on halt. Keep striving for that level of success that you push for Monday thru Thursday. Its okay to live for the weekend, just remember life still exist again on Monday.
No one will agree with what I’m about to say but I have to say it anyway. After years of not knowing how to answer a question intelligently, logically, or realistically. I now have an understanding of things far beyond most people’s comprehension. I first look at the question for the logical answer, then I look to see if there is a comparable answer that could serve as an eye-opening message.
Someone asked me, “Can couples really love one another If they cheat on each other?” Most people will say he or she cant possibly love the other. The most common answer is No!! Logic allows me to understand how people cheat, and that love plays no part in the act of cheating. We are of the flesh and it is our natural inclination to lust. We lust not only for the flesh of the opposite sex, but for the flesh of the same sex. We lust for Cars, and Houses and life styles of the rich and Famous. We lust for more than what we need out of greed, desire, and the longing to be fulfilled with complete bliss. Lust is momentarily and rarely ever last.
Love is an emotion that keeps us attached to the person that idealistically completes us. Love is a powerful emotion that in words cannot be defined because; you really go through some shit when you love someone. Love is eternal and everlasting. Love is unwavering, unrestricted. Love knows no bounds. We know all of these things and we profess this great undying love for our significant other; yet we still cheat in some way or another. The list can go on and on describing various forms of cheating in relationships, a certain look, a thought, fornication.
We all cheat or have cheated in some sense of the word, no matter how much we say we love our mate. The reason for this is clear as discussed earlier, its simply defined as carnal desire of the flesh. We all say we love God and in him we trust that all things will be done by his will. We believe that Christ died on the cross for our sin he was the epitome of eternal love, Yet we cheat him out of his just glorification. We cheat him out of his bounty of patience by showing impatience. We cheat him by giving into the things that we know are not prescribed for us drinking, drugs, cigarettes, fornication. Our lives our mirror reflections of each other because we are not right with God. It’s no wonder we cheat on our mates. We don’t respect a higher authority. If God was in our relationship we would have a sense of understanding, empathy, submission to the will of GOD other than ourselves. We need to stop placing blame on each other as we always do when the problem really isn’t about our mate but ourselves.
The problems that plague relationships really just takes an outside the box observation. Sometimes it’s not all about talking but listening. Moreover it really boils down to letting God in and trusting that he will strengthen you and edify your existence. Pray together and for each other. Once you begin to invite God in and have patience and trust that the situation will get better, It will!!! If you continue to have these same problems it is only because you are still….. Flesh of Thy Flesh
Wonders of the world are mystifying often arousing that inner nosiness that asks us the questions of what, when, where, how, and why?. Is it being nosy or am I am I the only one that wants to know the mysteries of the urban community. What happened to a fair one? Has it become so extinct in the hood to get a fair one anymore? Why is it that if you and I have an argument or disagreement we can’t lace up throw them hands, shake hands and go our separate ways. Why is it that there is never a public outcry to stop the violence until a person dies? Where were the outcries for peace when the person that died was the one that was doing all the terrorizing? Why is it that there is no empathy for the lives of the terrorized. Where has compassion gone? Why is it that we don’t have candlelight vigils to show the strength of the community just because. What happened to that cliche, “It takes a village to raise a child?”
When did it become cool for young black men to feminize themselves by wearing dresses and hip-huggers? What has gotten into our young black men? Why are they wearing their pants below their asses? Where are all the strong male role models in these families? How is it that no one has said anything to the little boy who wants to get tattoos all over his face? When did that become acceptable? Are these questions really that hard to answer, or is it there are no answers to the ignorance? We question many things that have us pondering and it’s only our natural inclination to be inquisitive. Who created the pyramids? Who is God? How is a plane suspended in the air? Some of the answers are a hypothesis, yet many are the views and opinions of man.
I’ve searched for these answers, I’ve searched long and I’ve searched hard. I searched skimming papers with finger tips bruised and scarred. I’ve searched high and I’ve searched low for the mysteries of the urban community I do not know. Is it suicidal to think that its genocidal and that ignorance can eradicate an entire race. Or should I hold on to the hope that God has a better plan in store and just be humble, be patient and wait. Should I take a stand now cause I cant take anymore, be the voice of the people like brother Malcolm, and brother Martin, and countless brothers before.
I gave birth to an idea, but just like with all births the art of conception has to first start with the thought to conceive. In order for me to impregnate my thought process and bring to light a new being in mind, body and spirit, I had to first understand reflection. I had to reflect on where I had been in my life and where I was trying to get to. I had to take a long look at the man in the mirror and learn to take responsibility for my own misfortunes. As I stared at the man in the mirror I realized I really didn’t like the person I had become. I was inconsiderate, arrogant, conceited, egotistical, a womanizer, and I had no idea what love was. How could I?
I didn’t even love myself enough to change all the things that were my own demise for so many years. The reflection I saw in the mirror staring back at me was not the man that my mom had birthed, and raised ,and instilled good morals and values. So who is the man in the mirror? For so many years I had not a clue as to who I was because I was what everybody needed me to be. I wore so many masks that when all the masks were peeled off and all the layers were stripped away, I was unrecognizable.
The man in the mirror is my personal reflection on my life and my constant everyday desire to change into a more productive citizen in society. Micheal Jackson’s Man in the mirror words had a serious impact on my decision to change my thinking, my desire to live, and my thirst for knowledge of who I truly am. I had to stop blaming everyone and everything and look at the root of the problem, which was me. “If you wanna make the world a better place take a look at yourself and make that change.” Reflect on all the things that have plagued your life. Take a good look at your reflection and ask yourself do you like the reflection that stares back at you. Change is a process that dose not happen overnight. Impregnate your thought process with new thoughts, and bring to life a new mind, body, and spirit. If I can take a moment to reflect you can too!!
I waited till the end of the month to start a new chapter in my life, which is blogging. I am understanding that this is a new way to get ideas across, have intelligent conversations, and to network with like-minded individuals. My focus is to talk about issues that generally plague our urban communities. My interest is basically to guide the youth and to be a motivational speaker bringing to light topics such as recidivism, violence in the communities and social injustices. The topics will be stimulating, mature, sometimes controversial, but more importantly these are the authors views of the society we live in. I welcome all comments, opinions, and feedback. Thank you for joining me on this journey and I ask God to walk with me and to bless me with the ability to complete this new adventure, to guide me and to bless with with the voice of reason to help the communities bridge together and stop the senseless violence. I ask god to continue to watch over me and to be my shield against those that mean me no good, To continue to enrich my mind with the thirst for knowledge, truths, and success.